Ask your child how they would like you to support them on Game Days: before the game, during the game and after the game. Decide what you as parents can realistically affect e.g., how much rest and sleep, how we will get there, what might be for lunch, etc. Be sure their playing gear and footwear are ready in advance. It may also be worthwhile asking your child what they DON’T want you to do on game days, e.g. talk to them while they are trying to play and criticize them and their teammates.
How do you support the development of your son’s or daughter’s potential during the game? After the game?
Here are some ideas for in game behavior:
In game behavior is vital. This is a massive opportunity to engage in potentialing. Your head nods, words, arm actions and any other verbal or nonverbal gestures make a big impression on your son or daughter. Hopefully your child does not look over to you for approval every time they perform something in a game. Truthfully, if they do, it is usually a sign that they are seeking approval for everything they do…which is not good.
Your number one job is to encourage them with your behavior and with your words. Yes they will make some ridiculous choices with and without the ball. Yes the ball will come flying off of their feet in lots of different directions. Sometimes they will not even be working hard. Yes, this is all normal and part of the game, and you do not need to be the coach and correct them or judge them. These are sometimes quite frustrating experiences but it is important to remember back to the section on communication about what makes an impression and why it makes an impression.
In the game, encourage them with your behavior and words. Praise their attempts. When they make a mistake, think about ways to encourage them to work hard to get up and get at it again.
Hope this helps…